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3 AM. I’m out of my bed, with this intense urge to tell the world, while at the same time, I’m shouting inside –

Follow your dreams! Be Better. Do Better!

I keep repeating these words everyday, multiple times, consciously and subconsciously. It started as an affirmation, changed to an order, became a prayer, a background noise and finally a silent scream.

Most of us have a similar version of this running in our heads, a silent scream only to be stifled by our so-called “rationale” mind.

“It is impractical”

“Stop day dreaming”

“What would your family think”

“You know you will fail”

“No clue”

But in the end, as Seth Godin says “The Lizard brain” takes over at the slightest hesitation, shoving your dreams, your art, your right for creation down the abyss of day-to-day living.

So STOP! and just hear me out.

For the last few weeks (or months) a new rationale has crept into my regular dream, which by the way, is following my passions in life.

Children!

For all the fathers and mothers or the soon-to-be ones out there, think about this reason. Our children are the most important things in our lives. We transform ourselves to selflessly give to them.

Passing on

Your children will see what you’re all about by what you live rather than what you say – Dr. Wayne Dyer

One of the most important things we try to pass on is our wisdom, a hope for a brilliant future for them.

We teach our children to live an ideal life so they can become great artists or anything. We tell them that the world has no boundaries and that our mind is limitless.

Our children are smart, they can see right through. Their love shows them who we are and if your words say one thing and your life says something else, they would learn that.

For example, this post would be more valuable if I did/doing all these things . Words without action soon lose their sheen, the world needs proof.

Set an example

Setting an example is not the main means of influencing another, it is the only means – Albert Einstein

We work hard to provide for our children. A good education, property, money and more. All to make their life easier and better.

Modeling yourself as an example is even more important.

Children whose parents have worked towards their dreams, have an easier time adapting to a similar life goal.

But most of us go after the money and we are willing to do any work (lose our integrity also) to get that. All in the name of our children.

My friends, that is the easier route. It is visible, you can tag it with numbers, 1 crore and your did it. But understanding our purpose to create or our right to realize our dream(s) is a much more confusing human aspect.

Harder, But Still…Just do it for them.

So the next time you find yourself arguing for sticking to the world’s most boring job, for your children’s sake, change tracks, convince yourself that you are good enough to pursue your dreams.

We are their first heroes. Lets follow the path that we believe in – for their sake!

I had to put this thought down, came up while I was reading the parenthood chapter from Simple Truths.

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Biking encounters

 

I have my own personal band of philosophy which never exists until I try to explain life to someone else.

The Rule

Consider for a moment that there are 100 people on this planet.

90 of them are just like you and me. They are good-natured, have strengths and weaknesses, done their good to the world, sometimes sinned and hurt people around them. This is the OK and good class of people.

8 of them are bad people. Given a chance, they will not hesitate to cheat you, steal from you, back-stab or cause you misery.

2 of them are really dangerous. They will not hesitate to physically injure or kill you. They are plain evil and cold-blooded.

The 8

The interesting part is that we start any new relationship – love, friendship, business partner, colleague, neighbor, keeping the 8 in our mind.

This new person will have to prove that he/she is not one of the 8 before we can start trusting him/her with our personal information.

But aren’t we wasting time with our suspicion?

What  if we knew that this new person was part of the 90 (just like you and me)?

I’m sure we would be more welcoming, gladly extending our warmth. Soon enough he/she will be part of our life circle.

The dangerous duo

Now the 2 – all our talk about a dangerous world or our children meeting strangers revolves around these 2 dangerous people. But c’mon they are just 2 out of 100, what are the odds that you meet them in your travels or adventures or trekks. Nevertheless the world has suddenly become a dangerous place.

I blame this suspicion and fear on society, newspapers, horror stories. They are full of stories of “the 10”  making that number look like 50 and your own fear (or inherited from parents) will make it into 70.

From 10 to 70! – We do have an active imagination

Its simple math to assume that 90% of your encounters in life will be with decent folks. But if YOU treat all your first encounters with a new person with suspicion, you will miss out in making good friends with most of them.

Guilty until proven innocent

You rather follow the policy of “Innocent until proven guilty” for happier encounters with our fellow human beings.

What the I!!!

Human beings are born with two very important but widely underestimated abilities – Intuition & Instinct

Instinct is something that we are born with, a natural reaction without thinking and Intuition is something we naturally acquire with experience, a judgement based on experience(s) and knowledge.

Trust these two Is more and they will get you away from all the dangerous situations, each one of these will red-mark anyone from the 10!

Hello World

We do have lots of friends. But isn’t that number like 50% (or less) of all the people you have met in life.

I’m not advising you to go out and bring home a stranger or a hitchhiker. All I’m asking you is NOT to become PARANOID!!!!

The world is a good place, filled with lots and lots of decent folks. Just say HI! and mean it:-)

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The red bird - Aaron Knapp

 

A stupid logic

I know of only one thing to do for a living – test software. If I lose this job, I will find another company with  a similar job or another mundane career.

Secretly I wish, to lose this job and nobody offers me anything similar. So that I can force myself to re-invent, or risk trying to meet my dreams. So others (family, friends, well-wishers) accept that I don’t have a choice but become “different”.

But that’s unbelievably stupid, it’s like saying “I wish nobody sells me cigarettes, so I can stop smoking” – WTF! who are you trying to kid, your consciousness?

OR

I wish to get the attitude of a successful writer or Bill Gates or Steve Jobs or My Brother

Duh! Dude you are just talking to yourself. You wish for something and you know the answer. ARE you kiddin’ me!!!??

Uneasy questions

Do you think you are successful, in terms of wealth?

Do you think you are MORE successful than others?

No?

Do you think you are MORE successful than the fat bribe-hungry government clerks?

Do you think you are MORE successful than the sweepers, office boys, security guards at work?

Do you think you are MORE successful than the daily wage earning construction workers or factory workers?

Yes? (If you have enough time, a computer and internet connection to read this post, the answer would be Yes)

Okay now think about the WHY?

First things that come to mind – Education, Family wealth, Hard Work, Luck, Fate

NOW. You know where you are, and you know where you are going (career wise), and you definitely know where you are NOT going – a govt clerk, factory worker, office boys, security guards, daily laborer.

You and I KNOW that we will NEVER work in any of those jobs. What makes us 100% sure?

Instead of looking downwards, lets look upwards – towards entrepreneurship, start-ups, radical dream careers (a writer?), towards politics, starting a charity.

We always dreamed of these “things” in life, but in the next instant, reality comes rushing back – too risky, no time, I have a family, no money, I’m just a graduate,I’m comfortable, too soft, not enough connections and on and on.

There are hundred reasons not to risk what we have. But not even one reason to try.

I know of one person who will ask – WHY NOT? – N R Naryana Murthy

100% sure?

We are 100% confident of not falling down to being a government clerk. But can only dream (2% confidence) of entrepreneurship , politics, change agent.

A govt clerk can only dream of becoming a professional. But is 100% confident that he will never become a security guard.

A security guard is happy with his life and his simple job, and he is sure that he will never have to carry office supplies.

A daily wage worker is resigned to his life. But he is almost sure that he will not have to “beg” in the streets of our poor country.

What is the pattern here?

My point – Attitude

Others say that all human beings have the same intelligence. I agree. So what differentiates me and the above people?

Answer – Attitude, this is the reason.

I came into learning an attitude which makes me a career professional. Office boy was raised to aim for a decent job as an office boy at an MNC.

I have enough education, more than the required share of experience in a job. All I need now is the right attitude – an entrepreneur, writer, rock climber, athlete, philanthropist, life coach  .

Break Out

We love the status quo , we believe that this is the  right livelihood and try all through life to adjust to our circumstances.  The whole world (around you) wants you to keep up the things as they are. You are where you are and you will (should) stay where you are.

“Be happy with what you have”.

I say “Don’t fool yourself about your capabilities”.

Stop! Draw out the Lizard brain (as Seth Godin says). Don’t accept the path of least resistance. Break-out! Cut the shackles of society, upbringing, peers, your own insecurities.

Don’t even trust your own intelligence – it was tampered over the years, bent into the shape  society wants.

Follow your heart.

Notice your instincts.

Listen to your inner voice.

and let your mind fly free.

For the thousands of “normal” people, there are hundreds who broke-out and JUST DID IT (Lisa is one among them,I found her through Kavita’s award)

First steps – Aware

Be aware, talk to yourself. Understand your excuses. Stop kiddin’ yourself.

I once read this, don’t know where.

“You already know everything you need to start something”

You already have enough knowledge about business, about writing, about computers. You just HAVE to take the first step – Action!!

Any further reading or learning that you are doing is just to convince yourself to take the risk for the first new step. So stop hesitating and take action, you will learn more as you go

Never believe Narla!

I could tell all the great tips from self-help books, I could explain philosophy from the Bible or Koran Or Geeta. But nobody will care two hoots.

Why Not?

Keshav has not proved anything. We need proof of greatness before we accept anything.

I don’t ask you to believe me or anyone. Just believe in yourself. Observe, analyze, talk, think, judge.

As for me, I still haven’t done anything that I’ve rambled on so far.

But this is my first step!

I write this as much for myself as for you. I owe this first step (this blog) to myself and the tiny section of people who believe in me.

I’m trying to be much more than ME

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My Powerful 8 lines

I am very lucky.

I’ve had a very happy life.

There are a few who love me much more than I love them.

I don’t love what I do for money.

My daughter’s name will be Narmada.

I found the most important thing in my life.

I don’t like to follow any rules unless I believe in them. (this includes religion)

The children keep us from killing each other. We are human because of them.

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It all adds up

Over the last few months, I heard about donating a percentage of earnings to charity.

Every time this comes up, I think about keeping aside 5-10% of monthly earnings for charity. But as usual this thought is lost among the hundreds of other personal problems.

Now this idea is back in focus . My colleague, Kishore, was transferring money and when I asked him about it, he told me that he donates every month. He is doing this for the last 6 years.

WoW! Here I was just thinking and right there was Kishore who was acting!

He actually took over his wife’s initiative to do this when they got married. She is very  empathetic to any cause or suffering.

Unfortunately I have the will to give, but lack the patience to search/research for an appropriate charitable organization.

This is where I need your help – I trust your judgement, please share your own preferred charitable organization that you think I should give to.

Here’s what I plan to do

  • Donate a fixed amount every month
  • Donations will be through online account-account transfers (I can set up standing instructions)
  • Donate to an organization in India

Here’s how you can help

  • Name one or more charitable organizations that you trust.
  • Explain in a few words (or sentences) why you prefer it.

Now while I beat my drums about my sudden philanthropic urges, my mother has been donating to a local temple in my hometown Vijayawada, to feed people.

The temple provides food for the poor and on my birthday, a small share goes in my  name. Mom has been doing this for years.

So through this post, I’m affirming to start my own small effort towards charity.

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What is Love?

A question which everybody can answer, many are unsure of their answer, some refuse to answer and a very few lucky ones know the actual answer.

I know most or all my friends or family will think this is a really silly question and think me as going crazy. But stop pretending for a moment that you don’t care about this question and think about your own answer. Yeah! I know. You know the answer is different to mine but also the same:-)

Don’t worry the answer keeps changing as life goes on.

Also, instead of answering, just see pictures of your friends, cousins or anyone who are blissfully in love and/or are happily married. For most of us, our close friends or family are the best examples of love & happiness.

Just look at this friend’s blog header pic of this lovely couple . A very lucky guy who is happily married and you can confirm (see his disclaimer) with his best friend, girl friend and wife!

A while ago, I came up with an answer out of curiosity and to explore my creative writing skills. But I was too embarrassed to make it public. Well Abhi from work (yeah the famville guy) convinced me to share it with a wider audience. So here goes..

Love is a state of being, which human beings were born to find or achieve in their journey through life.

It can be perceived as a roller coaster ride or a ship with an anchor in the middle of a calm sea.

It puts you  in bliss, shows happiness and sorrow, causes anger and cools you down with forgiveness.

It gives complete clarity and at the same time throws you into chaos.

It fluctuates, gives you power and then destroys it, making you very vulnerable.

But it then settles down as your foundation, an anchor or all good things in life while you are on cloud #9.

With love you  don’t go through life. You fly though it!

and on and on

I could go on and on, but only a person in love would understand it or find the patience to read it. At the same time that same person may not understand it, because it’s so different for all of us  or maybe the same.

We just don’t know, we can only feel it.
So go forth my fellow-men and women, search for love, search the highest of the mountains or the deepest of the oceans. You will one day realize that it was always there in your heart, it is there in all our hearts and will always be.
Open your heart and embrace love. Life is good and you know it.
Nike says ‘Just do it’
I say ‘Just love it’
Love him
Love Her
Love yourself
Love Life

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Life is full of  smileys. The trick is to have more happy :-)s.

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